Apart from cats liking 10 mill, is there any reason other then what you prefar, to use 10 mill or 20 mill gravel? for a low maintenance border, with pots to sit on,
20 mm gravel creates more voids and they are larger than would be found with a 10mm gravel. These voids collect detritus, so, in effect a 20mm gravel require more maintenance than a 10mm gravel.