Well thats been the worst week of my life..... - Lost my father suddenly

[Dave_L]

I lost my dear Father on April 1st, suddenly and unexpectedly.

He went to bed on the Sunday evening and never woke up. No struggle, no suffering, just looked like he was sleeping.

"Hindsight is the stick you beat yourself with" ~ Never a truer saying. Why did I work Good Friday and Saturday?? Ordinarily, I would have gone up there for a cuppa on one of those days. But, I have to say, my last time with Dad was a good time, Tuesday night after a busy Parish Council meeting having a couple of beers.

So.......if any of you guys have your parents around still..........make sure you make the most of them. Dad was taken from us 15 years too early, just as he was about to retire.

Friday, we are going to give him a send-off he would be proud of - a big village funeral.

[dig dug dan]

I feel for you dave. Went through the same thing a year or so ago. So many what ifs now.
You can take comfort from the fact that he went with no suffering, and you have all those great times and memories to think about.

[local patios and driveway]

bad news fella, nowt i can say to make things better for you except i may go and chat with my dad after ten years

[rab1]

Dave, Sorry to hear about your loss mate, at least he never suffered and went peacefully which is a blessing.

Rab

[mickg]

sorry to hear of your loss Dave

[henpecked]

Condolences,Dave. Its hard when someone close goes, but,I always say its to a better place.

[Tony McC]

It's 6 years (how did that happen?!) since my Dad buggered off and left me here on my own to run the job, and although the hurt has eased, the enormous impact he had on my life becomes ever more apparent.

I see more and more of his mannerisms and attitudes emerging in me as I get older, things like little throat-clearing coughs that I know came from me but I swear sound just like him.

As long as we carry them in out hearts, they are never really gone ...just absent.

Best wishes to you and your family, Dave.

[London Stone Paving]

Really sorry to hear that Dave. Life is so cruel.
best to you and yours

[Dave_L]

Thank you all for the lovely words........funeral tomorrow, that is going to be the hardest day of my life.

[lutonlagerlout]

dave ,sorry to hear that mate
i took the old fella and my mum out for lunch last week
they hated the fancy Mediterranean cuisine,but I just try and get them out of the house a bit of time together
lost the last of my grandparents this year , father time just keeps rolling on

good luck tomorrow
LLL

[rab1]

Dave, I`ll be thinking of you mate but it does get easier over time.

[Dave_L]

Well....we gave Dad the send off he would have been proud of - a lovely service in the village Church, filled to capacity and beyond with people from near and afar.

Dad was brought to the family house in the hearse, then transferred onto a "Bier" which is a four-wheeled trolley - and pushed from the house to the church with us boys with Mum in a row following on behind, with our wives and children behind us.

A walk I will never forget.

Walking into the Church brought a lump into my throat, seeing so rammed full of people; many familiar faces, many professional faces and Chains of Office.

The service was lovely; the hymns were wonderful; the readings by close family friends, a professional colleague of Dad and a tribute from my brother were just wonderful to hear. We weren't afraid to laugh - and Dad originally being a Chartered Accountant and his death on April 1st raised a hearty laugh!

The whole service was taken by a very close friend of the family who was the Vicar of the village 20 years ago and has remained very close to us ever since - it was magical to have him lead the service

The burial in the double-plot Mum and Dad had reserved a couple of years ago was nice, we all threw a posy of daffodils in onto the coffin when it had been laid to rest.

Dad had the funeral he would have loved - and we will miss you greatly x

[cookiewales]

your family are always in your heart all the best cookie